April 28, 2006

One Way Or Another


Destructive Pain

Boss: "You need to be confident and successful."
Employee: "I agree. How?"
Boss: "You need to be confident and successful."
Employee: "I understand that. But how?"
Boss: "You need to be confident and successful."
Employee: "Can I have a raise?"
Boss: "You need to be confident and successful."

Constructive Pain

Boss: "You need to be confident and successful."
Employee: "I agree. How?"
Boss: "Be passionate and curious."
Employee: "I understand that. But how?"
Boss: "If you don't know, maybe you should search for the answer."
Employee: "Can I have a raise?"
Boss: "You need to be confident and successful."

Both conversations begin and end the same way. The employees' responses are identical. Each result is completely different.

Or, you could take the advice of Dr. E. L. Kersten.